authenticity | Dr. Lori Todd

Authenticity Requires Courage and Discipline

Authenticity Requires Courage and Discipline.

Be true to your Self when events, people and your ego are pressuring you to be something else.

Be and act in alignment with who you hold yourself to be.

Stand that the Unique You is something beautiful and essential to the fabric of humanity.

Be uncomfortable as you operate without evidence, agreement or guarantee.

Be transparent and tell the truth about your inauthenticity, mistakes, and masks.

Confront yourself and discover your inauthenticity.

Tell the truth even if you feel like you are going to fail or die.

Break the cycle of your addiction to “look good, be right, and be in control.”

By Lori Todd|2019-10-16T00:15:54-04:00December 23rd, 2014|

Authenticity is necessary for healing humanity

Authenticity is necessary for healing humanity Imagine a dynamic planet where we operate as one and are all part of the essential fabric of existence, the collective creative consciousness. We are not separate selves that must worry incessantly and spend our time being right, looking good or being in control. We are integral to the whole and we are also unique beings. The expression of our gifts is important, beautiful and indispensable. Waking up to our unique gifts is no small task. We look in the mirror and we see a distorted image, like looking in a funhouse mirror and thinking it is accurate. We then enroll people around us in this conspiracy and they relate to our funhouse mirror as if it is the truth.

What does it mean to be your authentic self?

Being true to your Self, despite a world and external pressures attempting to have you be something else. Your Self is not a fixed entity given to you at birth. It is not your small EGO self separate from humanity.
Being and acting in alignment with who you hold yourself to be and the commitments that come out of your mouth. This is distinct from “how you feel in the moment,” “what you think in the moment,” or “what others want or think.”
Consider that who you hold yourself to be is the Unique You that was put on this planet for something beautiful, essential and woven into the fabric of humanity. It is like a sacred contract you make with your Self on who you get to be in the world.

Authenticity requires courage and discipline

It takes courage to be and act aligned with your declaration of who you are.
It takes courage, can be uncomfortable, unfamiliar because you are operating without much evidence or agreement or guarantees.
It takes courage to be transparent and tell the truth about your inauthenticity, mistakes, and masks.
It takes courage to confront yourself to discover where you are inauthentic: to actually shine a light on your blind spots and examine your inconsistent actions and ways of being.
It takes courage to tell the truth and feel like you are going to fail or die.
It takes courage to break the cycle of your addiction to “looking good, being right, and being in control, or your past.”

Children delight in discovery, uncertainty and pure possibility until we teach them that knowing and certainty gets them more approval points. So we grow up and become attached to certainty. The idea of revealing, “what we don’t know that we don’t know,” becomes a threat and another opportunity to be wrong and fail. It is difficult to experience true joy, power and freedom when we live within a context of “something is wrong” and “uncertainty is scary.” It is impossible to reveal our unique gifts and be connected to each other when we are cloaked in our inauthentic armor.

Stepping into Authentic Leadership: Part I
– Play a game bigger than survival of your Ego.
– Choose to make the success of humanity your delightful responsibility.
– Stop pretending you are separate from all the other beings.
– Wake up to your unique gifts and live as if they are profoundly needed.
– Have the courage to confront your Ego and inauthenticity.
– Be and act aligned with who you declare yourself to be.
– Urgently stand for others to discover their exceptional uniqueness.

By Lori Todd|2019-10-16T00:21:19-04:00December 21st, 2014|

Steps to Being Successful and Creating an Unprecedented Future
Envision it -> Big Promises -> Big Requests -> Make It Happen

1. Envision it: What do you really want? What is your vision?
2. Big Promises: What is the tangible manifestation of your vision? Invent a new place to operate from by making bold promises and then embodying the promise. Interact in the world by standing in this promise and allowing yourself to engage with forces both seen and unseen in an entirely new way.
3. Unconditional Commitment to Make It Happen. Be willing to risk everything. Operate without any guarantee. Be willing to “go for it anyway” and be committed, even though the odds of failing are high. If the odds of failing are low, you are not operating in the arena of an unprecedented future. “I have no guarantee, I make my commitment my guarantee.”

4. Set a powerful intention and Be The Source. Own your “unprecedented future.” Own that you are the Chessboard upon which all pieces play. You are not a pawn. Own that you are the writer, director and producer of this magnificent production. You are the Source. Get out of the way and allow the universe to support you.
5. Make Big Requests. A request could be for a coach to support you, for a $100,000 donation, for someone to enroll in the Journey. As a leader, you seek a committed response from a person who has the authority to deliver on that commitment. If you don’t think you need to make requests, if you don’t think you need to ask anybody for anything, you are playing a very small game. If you don’t use powerful coaches, you are playing a small game. You are also playing a small game if you only make requests you think will be accepted.
6. Be a space for Authentic YES’s or Authentically NO’s. What allows people to authentically say YES is that they have the authentic opportunity to say NO. With the freedom to say NO, both people are empowered. If you don’t let people say NO they have no space to say YES. Once you integrate into your way of being the knowledge that anyone can say NO, you will be transformed. You will begin to make bold requests, which may be a huge departure from your previous way of operating.

It doesn’t matter whether people say YES or NO. A clear request and answer moves your promises closer to manifestation. Yes-buts, maybe, I’ll think about it, I’ll call you sometime, etc. stalls the process. A NO is committed action. A NO moves things forward because it is clear without the fog of interpretation. A NO may bring issues to the surface and gives you the chance to clearly move on to what is next.

Break the cycle of your addiction to interpretations. There are no shoulds, shouldn’ts, rights or wrongs. You are inventing this future. When there is a breakdown, obstacle or NO, distinguish “what happened” from your “interpretation” of what happened. It’s important to remember that you made a commitment to “have it happen”, not to “have it happen by looking a certain way.”
7. Make corrections along the way. Make it Happen!

By Lori Todd|2019-10-16T00:19:25-04:00September 3rd, 2014|

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